And yesterday I spent most of the day putting together a wall cabinet for my bird supplies in my room.
I'm loving how it looks and this will certainly help to organize things better in my room. I'm thinking of getting a standing one for the living room because the bird supplies there are a mess too.
I've been thinking about the theory of the five languages of love. Here are my results from a quiz I took.
ACTS OF SERVICE
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
Sorry no link to the quiz. Can't get it to work.
Which one are you? BTW the stupid code doesn't works so I just copy and pasted the text and linked to the picture so you can see the result the right way. The five possibilities are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Gifts and Touch. I definitely am Acts of Service because I am happiest when Chris helps me not just with chores but with projects and creative stuff. This includes asking for ideas and advice to help me come to a decision. It is why I often ask for advice here on my journal from you guys. I like that this quiz counts all love not just romantic love. So this includes love of friends. The other categories are Words of Affirmation where you prefer compliments, encouragement and no criticism the most. You need to hear it from others. Billy Joe's Tell Her About It is a song that comes to mind that fits this type of love. Quality time is easy. You enjoy spending time with friends and loved ones most. This has nothing to do with being introverted or extroverted because love transcends type. All types need love just express it in different ways, but when we are socializing because we want to and because we love someone this is most appreciated. Gifts is another easy one. You like getting nice things from others as a show of love. Touch is when you like to be hugged, kissed etc.
I actually do all of these two some degree except for touch. I rejected all those questions as I don't like to be touched at all. I can't stand how it feels and it makes my skin crawl. Chris is the only one and I have had to work hard on letting him in. Quality time funny enough is my second strongest. I enjoy being with Chris or with people I like. Despite being an introvert all the way I am extremely selective of my friends and the few I do have I want to spend time with doing nice things with. There's the whole doing thing again. Acts are most important to me. So it is one reason I love travel and visiting others. Words of Affirmation. I'm 50/50 on this one. Chris and I say "I love you" constantly, we compliment each other deeply and strongly and we also encourage each other. I don't like that this quiz focuses on compliments. When it comes to friends I do like compliments but they have to be meaningful and true. I have dropped many an idiot online that latches onto me and just compliments me constantly when they don't know anything about me. Also in real life I cut these people off rather quickly. Puppy dog boy comes to mind if any of you remember him. Actions are louder than words and most people that pledge their undying allegiance to me I quickly put to the test with something hard. They don't last long. People have to prove themselves and they have to earn my love just like my respect. In fact my respect comes first. A lot of these people I've cut off I've out right told them I'm not their best friend back and that I am many people's best friend but it does not go two ways. You can only have one best friend that's why they are the best. And lastly there's gifts. I do love gifts but this is kind of like the words thing too. I like meaningful gifts from those that have earned my respect (notice I didn't say love) and I also don't expect gifts though I do hope for them on the two major holidays. Birthday and Christmas. Two ex friends would get me stuff because they had to. One was definitely an S type. I hate getting junk especially now that I'm trying to get junk out of my life and I do not care for crappy gifts. Funny enough because of my ego and because these people weren't my friends and had no respect the Daffy Duck son Chintzy applied to them. HERE is the Song. This version of Daffy is ENTJ. I love ENTJ's as they are very similar to us but more energy. I can so relate to this song and have done this because Daffy and Porky aren't friends at least in Daffy's eyes. Porky hasn't earned Daffy's respect and therefore not his love. And he never will because he's weak so his respect can't ever be obtained. Been there done that. Ha actually after watching the video again I can relate so much. I had an exfriend once give me a bad photo of herself as a gift. I reacted like Daffy. Ugh. Why? Yes it was trashed and some of the other bad gifts were donated to charity.
Now another thing I found interesting about this quiz was most of the questions where based I think on how you like to receive love. So I am Acts of Kindness for sure first and then a very close second quality time, followed by Words of Affirmation, then gifts then touch which is basically not at all for me. BUT I also wondered while answering if I should consider how I GIVE love because I think the order totally changes then. Quality time might be first in that case and then gifts. I love to give good gifts to friends when I am able to. I think about it all the time and if I had tons of money you guys would be getting more stuff in the mail. Gift giving IS an act after all so I'm following through on how important acts are. Because I am action oriented and don't put too much stock on words, giving or reviving, words are not something I do. But yeah you guys know I like to randomly give stuff. Chris knows this especially as we buy stuff just because. It doesn't have to be a holiday. And also something not covered here is loyalty that I highly value. Hence why I stand up for my friends against jerks both online and in real life and sure as shooting I expect my closest friends to defend me equally as hard when these things happen.
So yeah this is another branch of physiology I find very interesting. I suspect your language of love might be different when it comes to how you give and how you like to receive.
Here are the remaining results since no one knows how to use html anymore.
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.